The New China Etiquette - An e-publication by Chinese American Etiquette Association

The old saying: “When in Rome, do as the Romans” is not sufficient for bridging the communication gap and cultural differences between China and the US. The world operates in the climate of globalization with a constant need for cross-cultural communication. Chinese American Etiquette Association (CAEA) explores how interractions occur during a process of cultural adaptation between these two countries and cultures.

Monday, July 03, 2006

Lao Ban? Can I expense laundry on this business trip?

By Vida Zhang Fargis

Bottom line: If you’re on a business trip for your company, you are an ambassador, and you can’t smell bad.

I was at a big technology show in the North East USA. I had an appointment to meet up with some director level guys from a famous Chinese startup, gone big. After a bit of phone tag we finally got together in the main lobby. I walked over and extended my hand to shake. Then, it hit me. The smell. Let’s call them Xiao Li, Xiao Liu and Lao Ma. These guys had significant positions of responsibility in a premier Chinese technology company. They’d beat out millions for the positions in school to allow them to compete for these positions in business. Their company had flown them 12,000 miles to attend this conference. And they smelled like two week old laundry.

What happened?

Well, they hadn’t thought to do their laundry. They probably passed on a shower that morning, as well. They obviously didn’t think it mattered. I obviously thought it did. And realistically, most people at the show, who exchanged more then five words with them, must have noticed . . . they had foul body odor.

Whose to blame here?

First off any international professional has to take responsibility for his or her self. It has to start with the individual. If you don’t address personal hygiene, others will notice. On international business, wear fresh clothes everyday, and shower everyday. If you don’t people will notice.

Secondly, there is a systemic problem with Chinese companies that are “penny wise and pound foolish.” I suspect that this company did not encourage these guys to pay for laundry services on their business trips. “What? Pay $35.00 for laundry on your expense report? NO WAY. Wash your clothes in the sink! Save the company money!” That’s fine for the $35.00 you save, but what about the damage to your brand? Chinese and other companies from newly industrialized economies must realize that these costs are small compared to the potential damage from public perceptions of foul smelling ambassadors. You spent over $12,000.00 to fly them over the ocean and put them up in a hotel. Encourage them to get their clothes cleaned. Expense it!

Finally, the fault lies with me and perhaps with you. I held my nose and said nothing. These weren’t my friends or family. It wasn’t my responsibility. But they were my countrymen. They were Chinese ambassadors. And I did feel embarrassed for them and for my country. I perhaps, should have had the courage to raise the matter, however discretely. In this case, I bowed out and thought about the matter quietly. But certainly, the more brave thing, might have been to say something, in a direct way. How else are we all to grow?

A Few Points to Consider

- Western companies expect high levels of personal hygiene. This is not to be confused with “Silicon Valley Casual.” Personal hygiene does not mean wearing a suit. And you can wear a suit and still smell bad! Personal hygiene has to do with regular washing of ones body, hair and clothes.

- Chinese may not be accustomed to changing their clothes everyday. While a change of clothes is certainly encouraged, if for whatever reason one can’t, one must be sure to clean their clothes, before wearing them twice. Washing in the sink is not likely to be sufficient. It may sound pedantic, but please, just because it smells OK to you doesn’t mean it doesn’t smell LIKE YOU to everyone else.

- I once heard a European friend with one of the big four accounting firms (Beijing office) saying “it’s just hard for me to click with Chinese colleagues at my office. They wear the same clothing every day and don’t change.” Consider how off-putting it can be to others, to maintain what seems like reasonable habits. It’s your image. Do what you like, but beware of the consequences.

Historically China suffered from so many issues which have imbued such behavior as normal among many Chinese people. Our parents grew up in war time, our resources were scarce, we learned to cope with so little and there were more important things to worry about than how one smelled. But if the world is truly flat today, and global competition is allowing for things our parents would never have dreamed of, than we must analyze this new level playing field. Taking a bath everyday and changing ones clothes everyday is what is normal in the eyes of the westerners. If you’re going to venture out into the land of “westerners” and do business with them, on their terms, you’d better understand the impact you have with your unwitting behavior.

We all bring the habits inherited from family and society into our modern personal and professional life. We must retain our sense of dignity and distinction. But we can not compromise a certain degree of accommodation, in order to deal effectively and equally with others at an international level.

“Room service? I have some laundry for pickup . . .”

Before you leave the house in the morning, and head off to your business day . . .

by Vida Zhang Fargis

Wow. Last night's blog really seems to have started a lot of discussion. This is great to see. On the one hand we had so many people say "hey, that's not me. I WASH MY CLOTHES!!!" Cool. I'm glad to hear it. I never said that body odor and stale clothing was a Chinese phenomena. Its a universal problem. But I've got to tell you, a lot of those people who wrote in excusing themselves, were women. I gotta tell you, I was directing that blog mainly at the men. It's the gentlemen who mainly need to watch these issues.

Guys . . . In addition to the basics of shower and laundry let me add a few key tips to consider, before you leave the house in the morning, and head off to your business day . . .

Brush your teeth and have breath mints: If you have breakfast at home and then dash out without brushing your teeth, you stand the risk of having foul breath. This is all the same if you have coffee or lunch and don't have something to kill the foul breath. Always have breath mints. My preference in the Listerine Tabs that evaporate in your mouth. I don't like to walk around with the loud shaking sound of mints. Listerine Tabs make no noise in your pocket and unlike gum are not too noisy to chew or inconvenient to dispose of. Chose your own poison, but don't leave home without it! Bad breath is a drag and the choice is yours.

Clip your nostril hairs: Gentleman, it looks horrible if you've got leaves coming out of your nose. Clip your nose hairs with a scissor so we don't have to look at all the roots protruding from you nasal passages. Clip those nose hairs.

Watch for the snow storm! Friends of the male persuasion: If you have black hair and wear a black suit watch out for the snow drift. "Dandruff" or dead scalp skin flakes that fall from one's head can make a pair of shoulders in a good suit look absolutely ridiculous. First, use the right shampoo - anti dandruff shampoo like "Head and Shoulders" if it is an issue for you. Next, please check in the mirror every hour or so and see if there is a winter storm watch in effect. If so, brush off the snow and do yourself and everyone else, a favor. No one wants to look at all the flakes on your shoulders and if you're too excited about whatever it is you are doing (your pitch, your product, your performance), you may miss the ski slope on your shoulders. Keep the snow from falling, by avoiding shaking your head.

A little cologne goes a long way: Smelling like three-day old laundry is bad business. But smelling like half a bottle of cologne is no quick upgrade. Men, please . . . one, or at most two shots of cologne behind your back, shot one to two feet from the body will (assuming you've chosen a reasonable fragrance) make you smell dandy. However if you douse yourself in a fragrance, you can easily make yourself smell like a bad joke. People want the faint hint of your scent, not a frontal assault. Remember, a little can and will take care of you for a long time.

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